Week nineteen was full of excitement! My mom was down to visit and Kaitlin loved having her Grandma around! We started to get some more giggles out of her and she started talking more while she is pushing up on her tummy. She also started to scoot her butt up and move her legs around while on her stomach - is this a precursor to crawling?!?! Yikes!
It was also exciting because we started letting her cry it out at bedtime. I'm going to write a separate post on our experience but let's just say I am now a believer.
Kaitlin also rolled over in her crib at bedtime while swaddled. We are still using velcro swaddles so this is scary because she can't use her arms to help roll herself back over or push her chest up. We tried going swaddle free on Saturday (might as well just rip the band-aid off and go cold turkey, right?) and that was a HUGE mistake. Personally I just don't think she's ready to be unswaddled yet, even though she is turning over. Of course I want to do what is safest for her but at the same time she can't calm herself enough to fall asleep without the swaddle. Her arms and hands are all up in her face and she hasn't figured out yet that sleeping on your stomach is amazing. She missed two naps on Saturday morning and was exhausted after being awake for six hours. But she would.not.stop.crying. And she wouldn't put her hands down and go to sleep. I finally caved and swaddled her and then she fell sound asleep for two hours.
So now I am working on slowly getting rid of the swaddle. Surprisingly, when/if she breaks one or both arms out of the swaddle when she is asleep she is fine - she doesn't really wake up that much more than when she is swaddled. The problem is getting her to go to sleep with her arms out - which so far has been a failure every time. I am trying different things now like leaving one arm out and one arm swaddled so she can get used to it, before moving on to leaving both arms out. I am also trying swaddling her with her arms at her face so she can at least try and self sooth but not have her arms flying all over the place.
I know the biggest challenge for me is being consistent (which clearly I am not, as you can see above) and listening to her cry. I know that she needs to learn how to fall asleep without the swaddle as soon as possible. But it's hard being the only one at home during the day and listening to her cry because she can't sleep, and seeing her tired eyes. I cave too easily.
The only other solution I can think of is to try going swaddle free at bedtime (as opposed to starting with naps like I have been) and letting her cry it out. To me this just seems cruel! And I don't want her to get scared when she is stuck on her stomach and not have anyone come and help her.
Has anyone done this before? Am I crazy to think that letting her cry it out at bedtime without a swaddle is a bad idea? I need to find a solution quick - so we can all get back to sleeping better - and safely!